As a pastor, I've had many unfortunate encounters with domestic violence and its consequences. I've sat in my office across the table from a woman wearing sunglasses to hide the bruises. I've tried to comfort children as their father was handcuffed and taken from their home for beating up mom. In a few situations, the husband was escorted to jail as he simultaneously declared his love for the woman he just battered. But no one--not the police, his children, or me--was buying it. The violence and vitriol that brought all of us to that house was evidence enough that he didn't truly love her.
You just can't beat someone up while claiming at the same time that you love them. No one believes that--unless of course, you are talking about the church.
There seem to be a lot of people who "follow Jesus" but take every opportunity they can get to give His bride a black eye. Too many of them claim to be "Christian leaders" who are constantly critical of the church. Though their violence against her isn't physical, the lies they spread about her infect our culture like cancer.